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Jan 18, 2011

Worthy of those we have lost

So maybe I'm running a little late on this, but we all know that last Saturday's shooting in Tucson definitely struck our nation hard.  It reminded us of our worst fears that public shootings are a reality and that our rights to assembly and free speech can all too easily be compromised.  It disturbed our peace, reminding us of previous attacks like September 11th and Columbine.  I think the bottom line is, what's stopping this from happening again?  And how can one of us be so cruel? 

Yet, how look at how kind we can be as well.  Look at the hope apparent behind each corner of these still-unfolding events.



As the aftermath has transpired, this tragedy has reminded us of resilience, dedication, and the innate protection we have for our loved ones.  Several people died, including a precious 9-year-old girl who was born on the date of another great tragedy, September 11, 2001.  Yet the way severely-injured Congresswoman Gabrielle Giffords is recovering, the way a husband jumped before his wife, shielding her from a bullet, and how devoted staff-members tried to sacrifice their lives for their boss and friend, shows us that there is still hope in this world.  Miracles do happen, and people do have spirits of kindness and sacrifice.  Ultimately, good will always triumph over evil.



Now I'm no Obama fan, but his speech on Wednesday powerfully encouraged our nation to rise above this situation and use it to better our future. He issued us the calling to to make this  country live up to our innocent children's expectations.  His words gave me hope, and I found his speech really beautiful and inspiring.

If you missed President Obama's speech in honor of the victims of the Tuscon shooting, here is the transcript:

While we pray for the families of the fallen and those who are making miraculous recoveries, let us remind ourselves of our common bonds, our shared humanity and patriotism.
To the families of those we’ve lost; to all who called them friends; to the students of this university, the public servants who are gathered here, the people of Tucson and the people of Arizona:  I have come here tonight as an American who, like all Americans, kneels to pray with you today and will stand by you tomorrow. 
There is nothing I can say that will fill the sudden hole torn in your hearts.  But know this:  The hopes of a nation are here tonight.  We mourn with you for the fallen.  We join you in your grief.  And we add our faith to yours that Representative Gabrielle Giffords and the other living victims of this tragedy will pull through.
Scripture tells us:
There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God,
the holy place where the Most High dwells.
God is within her, she will not fall;
God will help her at break of day.
On Saturday morning, Gabby, her staff and many of her constituents gathered outside a supermarket to exercise their right to peaceful assembly and free speech.  They were fulfilling a central tenet of the democracy envisioned by our founders –- representatives of the people answering questions to their constituents, so as to carry their concerns back to our nation’s capital.  Gabby called it “Congress on Your Corner” -– just an updated version of government of and by and for the people. 
And that quintessentially American scene, that was the scene that was shattered by a gunman’s bullets.  And the six people who lost their lives on Saturday –- they, too, represented what is best in us, what is best in America. 
Judge John Roll served our legal system for nearly 40 years. A graduate of this university and a graduate of this law school.  Judge Roll was recommended for the federal bench by John McCain 20 years ago, appointed by President George H.W. Bush and rose to become Arizona’s chief federal judge. 
His colleagues described him as the hardest-working judge within the Ninth Circuit.  He was on his way back from attending Mass, as he did every day, when he decided to stop by and say hi to his representative.  John is survived by his loving wife, Maureen, his three sons and his five beautiful grandchildren.  
George and Dorothy Morris -– “Dot” to her friends -– were high school sweethearts who got married and had two daughters.  They did everything together -- traveling the open road in their RV, enjoying what their friends called a 50-year honeymoon.  Saturday morning, they went by the Safeway to hear what their congresswoman had to say.  When gunfire rang out, George, a former Marine, instinctively tried to shield his wife.   Both were shot.  Dot passed away.
A New Jersey native, Phyllis Schneck retired to Tucson to beat the snow.  But in the summer, she would return East, where her world revolved around her three children, her seven grandchildren and 2-year-old great-granddaughter.  A gifted quilter, she’d often work under a favorite tree, or sometimes she'd sew aprons with the logos of the Jets and the Giants to give out at the church where she volunteered.  A Republican, she took a liking to Gabby, and wanted to get to know her better. 
Dorwan and Mavy Stoddard grew up in Tucson together -– about 70 years ago.  They moved apart and started their own respective families.  But after both were widowed they found their way back here, to, as one of Mavy’s daughters put it, “be boyfriend and girlfriend again.”  
When they weren’t out on the road in their motor home, you could find them just up the road, helping folks in need at the Mountain Avenue Church of Christ.  A retired construction worker, Dorwan spent his spare time fixing up the church along with his dog, Tux.  His final act of selflessness was to dive on top of his wife, sacrificing his life for hers.
Everything -- everything -- Gabe Zimmerman did, he did with passion.  But his true passion was helping people.  As Gabby’s outreach director, he made the cares of thousands of her constituents his own, seeing to it that seniors got the Medicare benefits that they had earned, that veterans got the medals and the care that they deserved, that government was working for ordinary folks.  He died doing what he loved -– talking with people and seeing how he could help.  And Gabe is survived by his parents, Ross and Emily, his brother, Ben, and his fiancĂ©e, Kelly, who he planned to marry next year. 
And then there is nine-year-old Christina Taylor Green.  Christina was an A student; she was a dancer; she was a gymnast; she was a swimmer.  She decided that she wanted to be the first woman to play in the Major Leagues, and as the only girl on her Little League team, no one put it past her.  
She showed an appreciation for life uncommon for a girl her age.  She’d remind her mother, “We are so blessed.  We have the best life.”  And she’d pay those blessings back by participating in a charity that helped children who were less fortunate.
Our hearts are broken by their sudden passing.  Our hearts are broken -– and yet, our hearts also have reason for fullness.
Our hearts are full of hope and thanks for the 13 Americans who survived the shooting, including the congresswoman many of them went to see on Saturday. 
I have just come from the University Medical Center, just a mile from here, where our friend Gabby courageously fights to recover even as we speak.  And I want to tell you -- her husband Mark is here and he allows me to share this with you -- right after we went to visit, a few minutes after we left her room and some of her colleagues in Congress were in the room, Gabby opened her eyes for the first time.  Gabby opened her eyes for the first time. 
Gabby opened her eyes.  Gabby opened her eyes, so I can tell you she knows we are here.  She knows we love her.  And she knows that we are rooting for her through what is undoubtedly going to be a difficult journey.  We are there for her. 
Our hearts are full of thanks for that good news, and our hearts are full of gratitude for those who saved others.  We are grateful to Daniel Hernandez  -- a volunteer in Gabby’s office. 
And, Daniel, I’m sorry, you may deny it, but we’ve decided you are a hero because you ran through the chaos to minister to your boss, and tended to her wounds and helped keep her alive.  
We are grateful to the men who tackled the gunman as he stopped to reload.    Right over there.  We are grateful for petite Patricia Maisch, who wrestled away the killer’s ammunition, and undoubtedly saved some lives.  And we are grateful for the doctors and nurses and first responders who worked wonders to heal those who’d been hurt.  We are grateful to them.
These men and women remind us that heroism is found not only on the fields of battle.  They remind us that heroism does not require special training or physical strength.  Heroism is here, in the hearts of so many of our fellow citizens, all around us, just waiting to be summoned -– as it was on Saturday morning. Their actions, their selflessness poses a challenge to each of us.  It raises a question of what, beyond prayers and expressions of concern, is required of us going forward.  How can we honor the fallen?  How can we be true to their memory?
You see, when a tragedy like this strikes, it is part of our nature to demand explanations –- to try and pose some order on the chaos and make sense out of that which seems senseless.  Already we’ve seen a national conversation commence, not only about the motivations behind these killings, but about everything from the merits of gun safety laws to the adequacy of our mental health system.  And much of this process, of debating what might be done to prevent such tragedies in the future, is an essential ingredient in our exercise of self-government.
But at a time when our discourse has become so sharply polarized -– at a time when we are far too eager to lay the blame for all that ails the world at the feet of those who happen to think differently than we do -– it’s important for us to pause for a moment and make sure that we’re talking with each other in a way that heals, not in a way that wounds. 
Scripture tells us that there is evil in the world, and that terrible things happen for reasons that defy human understanding. In the words of Job, “When I looked for light, then came darkness.”  Bad things happen, and we have to guard against simple explanations in the aftermath.
For the truth is none of us can know exactly what triggered this vicious attack.  None of us can know with any certainty what might have stopped these shots from being fired, or what thoughts lurked in the inner recesses of a violent man’s mind.  Yes, we have to examine all the facts behind this tragedy.  We cannot and will not be passive in the face of such violence.  We should be willing to challenge old assumptions in order to lessen the prospects of such violence in the future. But what we cannot do is use this tragedy as one more occasion to turn on each other. That we cannot do. That we cannot do.
As we discuss these issues, let each of us do so with a good dose of humility.  Rather than pointing fingers or assigning blame, let’s use this occasion to expand our moral imaginations, to listen to each other more carefully, to sharpen our instincts for empathy and remind ourselves of all the ways that our hopes and dreams are bound together. 
After all, that’s what most of us do when we lose somebody in our family -– especially if the loss is unexpected.  We’re shaken out of our routines.  We’re forced to look inward.  We reflect on the past:  Did we spend enough time with an aging parent, we wonder.  Did we express our gratitude for all the sacrifices that they made for us?  Did we tell a spouse just how desperately we loved them, not just once in a while but every single day?
So sudden loss causes us to look backward -– but it also forces us to look forward; to reflect on the present and the future, on the manner in which we live our lives and nurture our relationships with those who are still with us. 
We may ask ourselves if we’ve shown enough kindness and generosity and compassion to the people in our lives.  Perhaps we question whether we're doing right by our children, or our community, whether our priorities are in order.
We recognize our own mortality, and we are reminded that in the fleeting time we have on this Earth, what matters is not wealth, or status, or power, or fame -– but rather, how well we have loved -- and what small part we have played in making the lives of other people better.  
And that process -- that process of reflection, of making sure we align our values with our actions –- that, I believe, is what a tragedy like this requires. 
For those who were harmed, those who were killed –- they are part of our family, an American family 300 million strong. We may not have known them personally, but surely we see ourselves in them.  In George and Dot, in Dorwan and Mavy, we sense the abiding love we have for our own husbands, our own wives, our own life partners.  Phyllis –- she’s our mom or our grandma; Gabe, our brother or son.  In Judge Roll, we recognize not only a man who prized his family and doing his job well, but also a man who embodied America’s fidelity to the law.
And in Gabby -- in Gabby, we see a reflection of our public-spiritedness; that desire to participate in that sometimes frustrating, sometimes contentious, but always necessary and never-ending process to form a more perfect union.  
And in Christina -- in Christina we see all of our children. So curious, so trusting, so energetic, so full of magic.  So deserving of our love.  And so deserving of our good example. 

If this tragedy prompts reflection and debate -- as it should -- let’s make sure it’s worthy of those we have lost.  Let’s make sure it’s not on the usual plane of politics and point-scoring and pettiness that drifts away in the next news cycle.
The loss of these wonderful people should make every one of us strive to be better.  To be better in our private lives, to be better friends and neighbors and coworkers and parents.  And if, as has been discussed in recent days, their death helps usher in more civility in our public discourse, let us remember it is not because a simple lack of civility caused this tragedy -- it did not -- but rather because only a more civil and honest public discourse can help us face up to the challenges of our nation in a way that would make them proud.  
We should be civil because we want to live up to the example of public servants like John Roll and Gabby Giffords, who knew first and foremost that we are all Americans, and that we can question each other’s ideas without questioning each other’s love of country and that our task, working together, is to constantly widen the circle of our concern so that we bequeath the American Dream to future generations. 
They believed -- they believed, and I believe that we can be better.  Those who died here, those who saved lives here –- they help me believe.  We may not be able to stop all evil in the world, but I know that how we treat one another, that’s entirely up to us. 
And I believe that for all our imperfections, we are full of decency and goodness, and that the forces that divide us are not as strong as those that unite us.  
That’s what I believe, in part because that’s what a child like Christina Taylor Green believed. 
Imagine -- imagine for a moment, here was a young girl who was just becoming aware of our democracy; just beginning to understand the obligations of citizenship; just starting to glimpse the fact that some day she, too, might play a part in shaping her nation’s future.  She had been elected to her student council.  She saw public service as something exciting and hopeful.  She was off to meet her congresswoman, someone she was sure was good and important and might be a role model.  She saw all this through the eyes of a child, undimmed by the cynicism or vitriol that we adults all too often just take for granted.
I want to live up to her expectations.  I want our democracy to be as good as Christina imagined it.  I want America to be as good as she imagined it.  All of us -– we should do everything we can to make sure this country lives up to our children’s expectations. 
As has already been mentioned, Christina was given to us on September 11th, 2001, one of 50 babies born that day to be pictured in a book called “Faces of Hope.”  On either side of her photo in that book were simple wishes for a child’s life.  “I hope you help those in need,” read one.  “I hope you know all the words to the National Anthem and sing it with your hand over your heart."  "I hope you jump in rain puddles.”
If there are rain puddles in Heaven, Christina is jumping in them today.  And here on this Earth -- here on this Earth, we place our hands over our hearts, and we commit ourselves as Americans to forging a country that is forever worthy of her gentle, happy spirit.
May God bless and keep those we’ve lost in restful and eternal peace.  May He love and watch over the survivors.  And may He bless the United States of America.
 - President Barack Obama, January 12, 2001, McCale Memorial Center, University of Arizona, Tuscon, Arizona


Jan 8, 2011

Meet Zoe!

Meet Zoe, our new bundle of sweetness.

Baby Zoe

There's a little too much puppy talk going on around here.  But who said that was a bad thing?

Welcome Zoe!

Haylie Brooke is my 6 year old shichon (shihtzu/bichon frise) princess, yes, all mine, and Riley is our family's 4 year old Boxer.  Now we have an 8 week old purebred, reverse brindle boxer, Zoe.

Zoe

After my transplant, Mom mentioned she wanted to get another dog once we re-situated after my discharge. My in-hospital transplant coordinator said we couldn't get a new dog because of the risk of transmitting germs from vaccines, being outside with germs/organisms, etc.  Of all of my new transplant "rules," this was the one I could take the least.  

Steroid-loaded, I remember literally sobbing as she explained this to us.  She said we could keep the dogs we had if we kept them clean and did not let them have the canine parainfluenza vaccination.  However, she cautioned against bringing a new dog into our lives.  "I understand people do it anyways," she said, "But I really wouldn't recommend it."

Our whole family was devastated.  While I wasn't exactly wanting another dog (and if I did, it would be another tiny girl like my Haylie), I knew in the future I'd want one.  Mom had an idea that another dog would be therapeutic for me during my recovery, but of course that didn't happen.

For some reason, Mom and I had been talking about puppies for the past couple weeks and were even "shopping" for them online.  To make a long story short, we found a sweet girl in Toledo.  Honestly, we fell in love with her sweet face in the picture on the website.  Mom thought Riley, our boxer, needed a playmate since Haylie never wants to play with her anymore.  We consulted with both my transplant coordinator and our vet and decided the risk was something we could be proactive about.  Our family agreed the benefit outweighed the risk.

The puppy on the computer (with the big eyes!) continued to work magic amongst our family, and yesterday we set out on a journey to see her.

For me, it was love at first sight.  Our family debated between her and her sister, but we finally agreed on our computer puppy, the one I liked the most all along.

We named her Zoe, which means life.
And appropriately so. 

The word life means so much more to me now that I've survived a liver transplant.  I'm painfully aware that another family is living without a precious life while I'm enjoying many more years.  Life - be it eternal life, physical life, whatever it may be - is always a sacrifice, and Zoe's name is special to remind us of that.  

Additionally, this little Zoe is bringing life to our family.  After a year of painful circumstances, confusion, and fear, we are beginning anew and have this precious little face to remind us of that as well.

Here's to new beginnings and being grateful for the sacrifice paid to save my life, all in the face of a tiny Boxer girl.


Zo-Zo

Jan 22, 2010

Be a part of something big

hope for haiti


Here in America, if you're watching TV, you're likely watching the "Help For Haiti Now" telethon which is on just about every channel.


CMT News:


Hope for Haiti Now: A Global Benefit for Earthquake Relief has announced the addition of new musical artists and celebrity participants to its lineup -- with Beyoncé in London, Madonna in New York City, and Haitian artist Emeline Michel in Los Angeles.

The telethon will air Friday (Jan. 22) at 8 p.m. ET/PT.

Madonna, Beyoncé and Michel join the previously announced lineup: Wyclef Jean, Bruce Springsteen, Jennifer Hudson, Mary J. Blige, Shakira and Sting (in New York City), Alicia Keys, Christina Aguilera, Dave Matthews, John Legend, Justin Timberlake, Stevie Wonder, Taylor Swift, and a group performance by Keith Urban, Kid Rock and Sheryl Crow (in Los Angeles) and Coldplay and a group performance by Bono, the Edge, Jay-Z and Rihanna in London.

In addition to the musical performances, Wyclef Jean, George Clooney and CNN's Anderson Cooper will be joined by former President Bill Clinton, Ben Stiller, Brad Pitt, Chris Rock, Clint Eastwood, Denzel Washington, Halle Berry, Jon Stewart, Julia Roberts, Leonardo DiCaprio, Matt Damon, Meryl Streep, Morgan Freeman, Nicole Kidman, Robert Pattinson, Samuel L. Jackson, Tom Hanks, Will Smith with Muhammad Ali and more than 100 of the biggest names in film, television and music.

Music performances from
Hope for Haiti Now will be available for purchase and download at the iTunes Store. Beginning on Friday (Jan. 22), iTunes customers will be able to exclusively preorder both the Hope for Haiti Now full performance album ($7.99) and the full two-hour video telecast ($2.99). Preorders will be delivered in the days following the telethon. Individual audio performances will also be available for purchase and download for 99 cents each in the days following the telethon. Apple, the record labels and the artists will donate their share of the proceeds to Haiti relief funds managed by Hope for Haiti Now charities.

Hope for Haiti Now performances will also be available for purchase on AmazonMP3 and Rhapsody, with distribution provided by INgrooves. Proceeds from those purchases will also benefit Haiti relief funds managed by Hope for Haiti Now charities.

Hope for Haiti Now will benefit Oxfam America, Partners in Health, the Red Cross, UNICEF, United Nations World Food Programme, Yele Haiti Foundation, and the newly-formed Clinton Bush Haiti Foundation. Proceeds from Hope for Haiti Now will be split among each organization's individual funds for Haiti earthquake relief. With the exception of the Clinton Bush Haiti Fund, each partner organization was selected for its history of operation and collaboration within the NGO community in Haiti.

Hope for Haiti Now will air across ABC, CBS, NBC, FOX, CNN, BET, The CW, HBO, MTV, VH1, CMT, PBS, TNT, Showtime, COMEDY CENTRAL, Bravo, E! Entertainment, National Geographic Channel, Oxygen, G4, CENTRIC, Current TV, Fuse, MLB Network, EPIX, Palladia, SoapNet, Style, Discovery Health, Planet Green, CNN en Español, HBO Latino, and Canadian networks including CBC Television, CTV, Global Television and MuchMusic.

In addition, the event will be live streamed online globally across sites including YouTube, Hulu, MySpace, Fancast, AOL, MSN.com, Yahoo, Bing.com, BET.com, CNN.com, CMT.com, MTV.com, VH1.com and Rhapsody and on mobile via Alltel, AT&T, Sprint, Verizon and FloTV.
Hope for Haiti Now will also air internationally on BET International, CNN International, National Geographic and MTV Networks International, which is available in 640 million homes worldwide. Hope for Haiti Now will be available non-exclusively to all terrestrial radio stations around the globe and Sirius XM Radio as a one-time-only radio broadcast via the MTV Radio Network and Westwood One.

Hope for Haiti Now will begin accepting donations Friday (Jan. 22) at 12 p.m. ET/9 a.m. PT via the following methods:  Online: http://www.hopeforhaitinow.org  Phone: (877) 99-HAITI  Text: Text "GIVE" to 50555  Mail: Hope for Haiti Now Fund, Entertainment Industry Foundation, 1201 West 5th Street, Suite T-700, Los Angeles, CA 90017


You've all read the news, seen the photos, viewed the footage on the evening news.  Haunting, absolutely devastatingly haunting.  Read these journals by Dr. Mark Hyman for the Huffington Post if you want a raw, true account.  Unbelievable, isn't it?


All the photos, the videos, they can be heavy, but then again, we know our God is touching these people in amazing ways.  Unfortunately, some of us are apathetic - it's easy to ignore a disaster that hit miles and miles away - and others don't believe in hope for one reason or another, but beneath the dead bodies, orphaned children, and moonlight tears, there is this:


haiti


h o p e


Jan 19, 2010

Praying for Haiti

Barely past a week ago, a small country woke up.  The people began their daily routines.  Perhaps like you and I did this morning?  They went about their days.  Most were in poverty, but they tried to make ends meet.  Little did they know what the next few hours held for them: an earthquake, striking their entire country into ultimate devastation.


Who says that couldn't have happend to us?  We wake up every day expecting a normal day.  Unfortunately, disaster can, and does, strike.  These beautiful people could have been us.  They could have been you, me, our parents, friends, coworkers... 


Let these images from LIFE speak for themselves. Click to see the image bigger so you can see every bit of  desperation, charity, teamwork, hope, and defeat.  (Yes, there are graphic images, but challenge yourself to come out of your comfort zone and really see what these people are going through.)


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I know how so many of us feel hopeless when we see the magnitude of such a disaster, so many miles away.  We're here, they're there.  We can't bring water, help build housing, or carry orphans to orphanages in the US.  We can't even hold them while they cry, wipe away their tears.


These global catastrophes really make my problems seem so small.  My heart reaches out to these people, and below I'll list some ways I'm helping.  I'd love it if you'd join me!  We call can give up that cup of coffee or extra cute shoes.  :)  The best part?  Everyone can help.  A simple prayer could make a difference or save a life.  If you want to donate money, it doesn't have to be a lot!  Read this piece by Suze Ornman - Even your spare change can inspire someone else to give, to help these poor devastated people.  A very good place to donate your money is Compassion International.  They're a Christian group that connects me with my "adopted" (sponsored) daughter in Nicaragua.  Millions of people, through Compassion, sponsor needy children in the most desolate areas.  I've been with them for nearly a year, and this group is high up on those lists that rank how much of your money actually goes to charity (as in, not the CEO's bank account).  Many of the sponsors had children in Haiti, so this is extra devastating to all of us.  Some sponsors are without the children they've helped raise through donations that provided learning, clean food/water, safety, etc.  Very sad.


Another site I'm really looking at is Hope for Haiti.  It's a site where one woman's great idea turned into earning thousands of dollars for Haiti.  Each post has something from a sponsor company (jewelry, gift certificate to their store, cosmetics, blog redesign, experiences, you name it) and each item has a raffle.  Buy as many "raffle tickets" as you'd like, and you might win the item you want!  All items are donated, and all profits go to Haiti. Who said one person couldn't change the world?


Please do something.  Do many things, or do one thing.  Say a prayer, or pray every day.  Everything counts for these precious people.  This could have happened to anyone...



Jun 4, 2009

The man who saved my life

It was bittersweet last week when I picked up the newspaper last week and saw this on the cover.


The dedicated, passionate doctor who saved my life is retiring, and for that, the world will suffer a great loss.  However, it will also be a better place because of all he did during his practicing years through the children who live on because of his touch, the doctors and nurses who were honored to learn under his inspiration.


I only saw Dr. Stone once, but he still saved my life.  In the most literal sense.


When, at barely 5 1/2,I was the medical mystery of the month, presenting with a myriad of serious and perplexing symptoms, it was Dr. Stone who made milestones in my case.  He was the one who had the bravery to test a once-vivacious little girl for leukemia, the keen skills to relate her symptoms and test results to liver disease, and the wisdom to refer her family up to Cleveland.


He had the boldness to scold my father for asking if what I had was cancer right in front of his already-petrified, extraordinarily-alert daughter.  He had the patience to help our family through the time, to bridge us to the next "step."


Looking back, I remember being in his office, scared out of my mind. I remember he and my parents telling me I was going to have to stay in the hospital right then, as in, Yes, kid, you just came here for a doctor visit, but we were just kidding.  You're not going home!  I remember having no idea what was going on, wondering why I was being poked and prodded and stuck in a cold, dreary room with Sesame Street (a "baby show") playing on the TV.  I wondered why in the world this guy was doing all of this to me, oblivious that he was really doing the best for me.


Dr. Stone may not be associated with my happiest memories - far from it, in fact - but he is associated with my mental list of great doctors who truly care on all levels and won't take "unknown diagnosis" for an answer. 


He truly loved his patients.  


He saw the futures many other doctors would not have ever dreamed possible for us.




Pediatrician hangs up lab coat
Local doctor retires after 42 years of practice, leaves legacy of ‘unparalleled’ care



By Cheryl Powell, Beacon Journal medical writer


No one ever calls Joe Ritz ''Joey.''


No one, that is, except Dr. Robert Stone.


Just as he does for many of his patients, Stone came up with a special nickname that only he uses for the 18-year-old Tallmadge resident who was born with a rare liver disorder.


Many times, Stone showed up unexpectedly at Akron Children's Hospital on his days off to check on Ritz. And on more than one occasion, he met Ritz in the emergency room or in the labs to check on his patient.


''He makes you feel special,'' Ritz said. ''He makes it real easy to talk to him. It's like talking to a grandfather more than a doctor. He makes the big hospital words seem like small kids' words.''


After 42 years and many nicknames, Stone, 72, recently retired from patient care at Pediatrics in Akron.


The Akron native is continuing his administrative role at Akron Children's, where he serves as associate chair for Community Affairs and as a member of the board of trustees and several committees.


But fellow doctors, hospital leaders, patients and their parents say Stone leaves behind a legacy of caring for children and their families with a level of personal dedication that's hard to match.


''His service and his leadership to Children's, quite honestly, in my mind, is unparalleled,'' said William Considine, president and chief executive of Akron Children's. ''We're a better place because of him, I can tell you that.


''You can't go to a grocery store, a drug store and even in the community without running into some family that has been cared for by Bob Stone.''


Special care


Many of the tens of thousands of children and families treated by Dr. Robert T. ''Bob'' Stone over the past four decades grew to see the highly regarded pediatrician as their friend.


Judi Carman of Green relied on Stone to help her care for five special-needs children adopted by her and her husband, Jeff.


Katie, or ''Katie Cakes,'' as Stone called her, was born with a rare genetic condition as well as serious medical problems caused by her birth mother's crack use.


The girl died when she was 4 1/2.


Carman's other adopted children, ranging in age from 24 to 11, have a host of severe medical and psychological problems.


Whenever she had a child in the hospital and needed to leave at night to care for her other children, Stone would call her first thing the next morning with a report.


''He always took those few minutes to update me and keep me posted and make me feel included in the care and also relaxed about what was happening that day,'' she said. ''His devotion to children and their medical care and their family just goes unsurpassed. You're working with a family, and he never forgets that.''


Confronting death


General pediatricians normally deal with birth and life, not death and dying.


Stone, however, opted to specialize in gastroenterology and cystic fibrosis at a time when the average survival for children with the incurable genetic disease was less than 10 years. (Today, the average life expectancy is closer to 40.)


During his first year of residency at Akron Children's, Stone came to appreciate the role of doctors in helping young patients and their families face life-threatening conditions and death.


That year, he helped take care of a girl who died from complications caused by lupus.


''I learned a lot from that, because it wasn't only dealing with her, it was helping a family struggle with what is every parent's worst nightmare,'' he said.


Stone said he always tried to approach his patients and their families with empathy, not sympathy.


''Whatever time you get, you'd like to make it as meaningful as possible for that child, that person, and that family,'' Stone said. ''You become a part of the extended family. You really do. You get involved.''


Coping with stress


Rochelle Stone, his wife of almost 50 years, said he did a good job of not bringing the stress of his work home with him.


''The joy of pediatric practice is to see kids grow and thrive and become adults and live a nice fruitful life,'' she said. ''If you're dealing with a chronic illness segment, you help a family deal with what they're going to have to deal with. It takes a person with great insight and understanding and sensitivity. While you help the family deal with it, you can't paint a rosy picture and not talk about what the reality is. That's a real gift that Bob does have.''


Over the years, she said, he would get ''down in the dumper'' at times when a patient wasn't doing as well as he had hoped.


''He would never say who the family was, but over a situation that went poorly,'' said Rochelle Stone, the past president of the Akron Children's Hospital Women's Board. ''If there was a patient of his who was a social friend of ours, I was always the last one who would know if their child was in the hospital. He was always careful about that. I think it was a way of keeping family life separate from office life, too. It was a way for him to be able to walk away from those tense situations than to have to live it over and over.''


Stone served as director of the hospital's cystic fibrosis clinic from 1972 until 1998, when he woke up in the middle of the night and thought: ''You know what? Thirty years of death and dying is enough.''


By that time, however, the lives of his patients were decades longer than when he started practice.


He'd moved from attending preschool graduations of patients who wouldn't live into their teens to attending high school graduations, college graduations and weddings.


''You start with something that's so grim and now it's upbeat,'' he said.


During his tenure, Stone was instrumental in bringing adult services to the cystic fibrosis clinic for patients who increasingly were surviving into their adulthood, said Dr. Gregory Omlor, director of the pulmonary division at Akron Children's.


He showed the same level of dedication to all his patients, Omlor said.


''He would be available to them at all hours of the day,'' Omlor said. ''He would come in on Sundays and see the patients. If there was a procedure that needed to be done and nobody else would do it, he would take the time to learn how to do the procedure so his patients could get the needed care.''


To honor his work, Stone's brother and sister-in-law, Don and Marcia, donated $300,000 in 1997 to the hospital's outpatient respiratory center, which now bears his name.


''It's really a nice legacy,'' he said.


'New chapter'


Stone admitted it wasn't easy to leave patient care behind.


''I obviously had mixed emotions about it,'' he said. ''My basic project over the last couple years was to help transition my patients.''


His wife said much like a veteran athlete, Stone ''decided to cut back from seeing patients at a time when he was still at the top of his game and before anyone asked him to step down.


''We're at a point now where we'd like to do more traveling and have less restrictions on our daily activities,'' she said.


Thankfully, his wife added with a laugh, he opted to retire when the weather was turning warmer and the golf courses were beckoning.


''It's a new chapter,'' Stone said. ''That's the way I'm looking at it.''



Jul 15, 2008

A "real" nursing job!

I've had jobs before, but this is different. This is the first time I'm actually being paid to act upon my nursing skills that after three full years of nursing school are definitely starting to accumulate. I figured now's a good time.... I start my 4th year in August (out of 5 total... yes I'm one of those who will be in nursing school forevvverrr!!) so I figured summer would be a good time to get a job underway. I'll try to sum it up.... :)

Last week: orientation week. So for three days only, I made a relatively large amount of money to sit on my butt from 7:45-4:30 daily to hear ramblings on OSCA, HIPAA, JCHAO, patient satisfaction, oh and yes - my favorite of the week - electrical safety! ;-) And Wednesday was nursing skills review. Fun. Nothing we didn't learn already in school, but hey, we did get free donuts too, so shall I complain? I think not. ;-)

So, I've kind of been lacking in the blog department lately, especially about all this fun job stuff, so let's back up to about a year ago...

The job recruiter at one of the local hospitals came to my school and I begged her for a job as a student nurse tech. (Not because I needed the money, simply because I'm way overly ambitious and love nursing! You knew that, silly!) She said as soon as my first clinicals were done, call her and she'd hire me. So I did. A few months ago.

Meanwhile, I was interviewing and shadowing at the local children's-only hospital. (Remember my post Angels Fighters + Miracles ? It's all in there) Long story short, I was going to work in the PICU (pediatric intensive care unit) there, and on the day I shadowed, we had a rough day with three deaths including one little boy who started out at school, collapsed on the playground, made for a huge trauma scene in the PICU, and eventually, his little heart just couldn't go any longer. I thought I would be okay, but as the days went by, I realized that working on that kind of floor would just bring back too many memories of my childhood in that very same hospital. Either my scars aren't done healing, or they'll never be done healing - that's not the point. But for now, I have to be completely honest with myself and I know that accepting a position on that kind of floor would be extremely unwise on my part, just asking for cruel, emotional torment. So, thankfully, my interview at the original hospital with the recruiter I met at school went extremely well, I ended up interviewing for a couple floors, and to make a long story short, I'm now employed.

So what is a student nurse tech, you ask? Well, we are in the main "Nursing Department" and basically we can do most of what the RNs do except for meds, etc. - things that require the RN state licensure. There's definite rules on what we can/can't do, but once the nurses on the floor get to know us, they'll let us do just about anything. (One of my friends practices IV insertions on the RNs every night if the patients are sleeping and everything's under control, ha!) We get paid way more than the majority of other college students, I can assure you that, and we are actually getting experience that is directly related to our future careers. And guess what else? WE choose our own hours so it's conducive to our schooling, AND they pay us shift differential for anything after 2:30pm (until like 6 or 7am or something). But that's when we have class/clinical (usually) anyways, so they pay us extra to work when they know we'll most likely work anyways? Umm.... So why does it seem so great? Well, because of the nursing shortage, the hospital likes to sugar it up so when we graduate, they can say, "Remember all those free pens and water bottles we gave you? Oh yeah, and we paid you real nice? We let you pick all your own hours? Remember us? We like you. We gave you free parking. Come work here." All the hospitals do it now... how not-obvious of them.

But hey, I get an excuse to get cute, comfy scrubs - that aren't my school's white, starchy, embroidered uniform scrubs! - so do I care?? Nope. And I'm seriously making statements in my scrubs. No scary patterns here. I have the boot cut pants and the cute little tops in all my fave colors and prints that might even pass as "real clothes"... cute necklines, cute ties, some have eyelets and gathers and all kinds of stuff. Nope, nothing scary and cartoony here! If you ever end up at my hospital (and wouldn't you like to know - I'm not telling! HIPAA might come get me!) you def' can't miss me. I'm the most styling one around. Seriously.

So I spent the entire previous week filling out paperwork, doing random stuff and getting drug-screened and a physical at Employee Health, getting security checked and ID-badged at security, getting my free (yay!) parking pass..... And last week was two orientation lecture days plus a nursing orientation day.

I'm really excited to start working on the floor. It's a brand new neuro floor - just remodeled and we have all new staff, new director, new everything. And the nurse manager (the director) and I hit it off. When I came to meet with her over a month ago (the floor wasn't even open yet), she knew my name and told me how excited she was to finally meet me. She said she had looked through my portfolio and already knew she wanted to hire me. In fact, she went so far as to actually tell me she wanted to clone me. (Weird?) We didn't really talk about anything interview-ish, we immediately went into our hopes and dreams for the floor and the field and where both of us have been and would like to be. Our passions are very similar, and I know she was really impressed when I started sharing what I read in a journal article with her and she pulled that same article off of a pile on her desk. She pretty much told me it's her floor and she is making sure I am on it, and I love her energy and determination. I can tell she's one of those people who gets things done, and I am sure she's not afraid of trying new things, so I'm really excited to work with her. Before I left, she politely asked if she could ask me one little favor. Of course I didn't mind, so I told her of course, and she proceeded to ask if she could make a copy of a page from my nursing portfolio to hand out to every person she hires for the new floor. I had no idea why she'd want to do that, but then she showed me the page, and in my heart, I think I new why.

Basically, last semester we had to write Clinical Journal Entries for school, and my first entry of the semester inspired me to take out all the annoying school parts like "three specific semester goals" and other distracting parts for the assignment, just prune it down to an honest, open Why-I'm-In-Nursing piece. Click to see my post that includes last semester's Clinical Journal Entry #1 and the portfolio version is pretty much that, minus the first paragraph as well as the last 2-3 paragraphs. But back to this... sure enough, almost two months later, Director was so excited to give every single employee on her floor a copy of that. What an honor. I hope it encourages someone to be a better nurse.

So with that, I begin my real floor nursing today - I have to shadow for 2 8hr shifts and then I'm on my own on my own floor. Normally I'd just be on my floor from the start, but since it's new, they're still acclimating the unit to patient use. So much going on that I'm way excited to share, but getting this post up in itself is an accomplishment (snaps for me!) so with that, I hope everyone is off to a great week! :)

Jul 4, 2008

More later... but big news for now!

Alltop is one of the best blog aggregation sites - they search the net to find "all the top" stuff around the net and compile it in one place, categorizing everything on different themed pages, each dedicated to different topics (think news, weddings, crafts, France, PHP, autos, seriously - they have it all!) Well, my news is... I'm now featured on Alltop's Twenty-Something's page!! It's kind of a big deal. And I'm honored.

Thanks Alltop. Welcome new friends. And preexisting friends? Go show Alltop some love. :) And have a FANTABULOUS 4th of July!!

Alltop, all the cool kids (and me)

Apr 2, 2008

lOtSa sTuFf!

NuRsiNg
Wow! What a week! It's been just beyond crazy over here. Most of the weekend, I worked on school projects that are coming due in the next month or so. Monday, our professor from Assessment was our "guest lecturer" and it was great. It was the pain/comfort lecture, and since she has a strong history in critical care, she was perfect. Sure beats that other grad student they've been sticking in there. For once this semester, we actually learned something in lecture. We *heart* Mrs. Yoost!!

And today is Wednesday, so that makes yesterday Tuesday, which is lab day, and no shocker here, we once again had a little too much fun. This week, we played GI Jeopardy. Mrs. Fox loves making us play games, so she totally got all into it. We even had the theme song music playing for Final Jeopardy. Nothing like a little game show action to go with intestines, stomas, and enemas! Next week is oxygen, and the following week is urine elimination. Then, it's our last week of lab already (well, before finals at least), and it's our big Care of the Dying Client lecture. That's always a tough subject. I think people would be amazed at how much there is to death.

gOoD sTuFf
I'm in NSCS (National Society of Collegiate Scholars), and we made the school paper for our book drive. I think it's kind of exciting. :) You can read it here. My mom and I literally filled my entire trunk full of books and donated them. It felt so good to be doing something to help out those less fortunate. Mom cleaned out Dad's office, so we found tons of books in there, and then we finally got rid of the A Beka books for the two years Nikki and I were homeschooled. Finally. Ha!

sCraPbOoKinG
Last night, Mom and I decided we'd go out for like an hour to dine at Bob Evans (mmm, soup!) and make a stop at Home Depot, but one thing led to another, and before I knew it, we were shopping. I read this really cool idea online of binding scrapbooking idea books so they can lay flat, and I have to say I think I'm going to do this a lot more often. My fiance has a big cutting machine at his work that can cut off the binding of a thick softcover idea book, and then I took the pages to Office Max and had them spiral bound for a few bucks. Definitely not bad... Look at these!



And in other scrapbooking news, check out Lisa Bearnon's Kit of the Month. I'm usually not totally into these, but this month's was seriously too cute to pass up. Overpriced... maybe.... but definitely too cute. Can't wait to play with all these goodies!



iDoL nEwS
Who is going home?? Dial Idol is predicting Ramiele, but it's pretty close. I'm still on Team Brooke, but last night, she definitely could have done better than she did. :(

tOdAy
Today has just been nuts. First of all, we're getting all the hardwood floors redone, and the whole downstairs is just a mess. They've sanded for 2 or 3 days now, and I guess they have to do all kinds of finishing. Which means we have to move out. Seriously...... is that not ridiculous?! I'm going to stay at my mom's best friend's house with Hayles, and Mom and Nikki are taking Ri up to my grandparents' condo since they're in Florida right now. Dad's still in Africa, so I guess that's one less family member who gets to move for a few days...

I got this random email from Emily at Boutique Cafe and apparently I won some kind of contest? They posted about these cute little first aid kits for kids, and as a nurse, I couldn't help but post and let them know how cute they were, and I guess my post won me two free kits! I'll definitely be keeping them in my car for when I have the boys and they get themselves into trouble.... which sometimes seems to be often. ;-)

Videochatting on iChat with my dearest fiance!! Gotta love Macs.... Look at this... Awww... Come home from Africa soon!!!!




Clinicals - that post is coming. Bet you'll never guess what I did today!!! ;-)

Tonight - my cousin is here... we're finishing up Evan Almighty (which is actually a lot better than I thought it would be!), then Idol in a few minutes. Duh.... Oh yes, and with pizza. And Cherry Coke. Yep, that's a must.

Mar 17, 2008

Monday Miscellany!

Lotsa good randomness today on the very first day of sPrinG bReAk 2O08!!


1. School
Yep, the inevitable.  Love this post - How to NOT go crazy from school.  A lot of really good tips so seriously, check it out.

2. Sunshine
It's starting to actually look like spring!!  Hooray!!!

3. Nursing
Can't help it - it's in my blood.  The Chinese toys killing our children is bad enough but our medicines?!  Seriously... can someone please take our Heparin out of China?!   In more Heparin news (Heparin is bad juju!)... in lab last week, we saw the new Heparin vials - bright red and yellow and a ginormous label so unless you're borderline brain-dead, you really couldn't miss the drug and dose. 1.5 million Americans each year are harmed in some way from a hospital med error, and 7,000 lose their lives.  That's 1.5 million Americans too many if you ask me.  

4. Yesterday's Post Secret Sunday Secrets
These two were my favorites:



5. Even though it's Monday...
*~*Be HaPpY!!*~*

 
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