The dedicated, passionate doctor who saved my life is retiring, and for that, the world will suffer a great loss. However, it will also be a better place because of all he did during his practicing years through the children who live on because of his touch, the doctors and nurses who were honored to learn under his inspiration.
I only saw Dr. Stone once, but he still saved my life. In the most literal sense.
When, at barely 5 1/2,I was the medical mystery of the month, presenting with a myriad of serious and perplexing symptoms, it was Dr. Stone who made milestones in my case. He was the one who had the bravery to test a once-vivacious little girl for leukemia, the keen skills to relate her symptoms and test results to liver disease, and the wisdom to refer her family up to Cleveland.
He had the boldness to scold my father for asking if what I had was cancer right in front of his already-petrified, extraordinarily-alert daughter. He had the patience to help our family through the time, to bridge us to the next "step."
Looking back, I remember being in his office, scared out of my mind. I remember he and my parents telling me I was going to have to stay in the hospital right then, as in, Yes, kid, you just came here for a doctor visit, but we were just kidding. You're not going home! I remember having no idea what was going on, wondering why I was being poked and prodded and stuck in a cold, dreary room with Sesame Street (a "baby show") playing on the TV. I wondered why in the world this guy was doing all of this to me, oblivious that he was really doing the best for me.
Dr. Stone may not be associated with my happiest memories - far from it, in fact - but he is associated with my mental list of great doctors who truly care on all levels and won't take "unknown diagnosis" for an answer.
He truly loved his patients.
By Cheryl Powell, Beacon Journal medical writer; Published on Tuesday, May 26, 2009
No one ever calls Joe Ritz ''Joey.''
No one, that is, except Dr. Robert Stone.
Just as he does for many of his patients, Stone came up with a special nickname that only he uses for the 18-year-old Tallmadge resident who was born with a rare liver disorder.
Many times, Stone showed up unexpectedly at Akron Children's Hospital on his days off to check on Ritz. And on more than one occasion, he met Ritz in the emergency room or in the labs to check on his patient.
''He makes you feel special,'' Ritz said. ''He makes it real easy to talk to him. It's like talking to a grandfather more than a doctor. He makes the big hospital words seem like small kids' words.''
After 42 years and many nicknames, Stone, 72, recently retired from patient care at Pediatrics in Akron.
The Akron native is continuing his administrative role at Akron Children's, where he serves as associate chair for Community Affairs and as a member of the board of trustees and several committees.
But fellow doctors, hospital leaders, patients and their parents say Stone leaves behind a legacy of caring for children and their families with a level of personal dedication that's hard to match.
''His service and his leadership to Children's, quite honestly, in my mind, is unparalleled,'' said William Considine, president and chief executive of Akron Children's. ''We're a better place because of him, I can tell you that.
''You can't go to a grocery store, a drug store and even in the community without running into some family that has been cared for by Bob Stone.''
Special care
Many of the tens of thousands of children and families treated by Dr. Robert T. ''Bob'' Stone over the past four decades grew to see the highly regarded pediatrician as their friend.
Judi Carman of Green relied on Stone to help her care for five special-needs children adopted by her and her husband, Jeff.
Katie, or ''Katie Cakes,'' as Stone called her, was born with a rare genetic condition as well as serious medical problems caused by her birth mother's crack use.
The girl died when she was 4 1/2.
Carman's other adopted children, ranging in age from 24 to 11, have a host of severe medical and psychological problems.
Whenever she had a child in the hospital and needed to leave at night to care for her other children, Stone would call her first thing the next morning with a report.
''He always took those few minutes to update me and keep me posted and make me feel included in the care and also relaxed about what was happening that day,'' she said. ''His devotion to children and their medical care and their family just goes unsurpassed. You're working with a family, and he never forgets that.''
Confronting death
General pediatricians normally deal with birth and life, not death and dying.
Stone, however, opted to specialize in gastroenterology and cystic fibrosis at a time when the average survival for children with the incurable genetic disease was less than 10 years. (Today, the average life expectancy is closer to 40.)
During his first year of residency at Akron Children's, Stone came to appreciate the role of doctors in helping young patients and their families face life-threatening conditions and death.
That year, he helped take care of a girl who died from complications caused by lupus.
''I learned a lot from that, because it wasn't only dealing with her, it was helping a family struggle with what is every parent's worst nightmare,'' he said.
Stone said he always tried to approach his patients and their families with empathy, not sympathy.
''Whatever time you get, you'd like to make it as meaningful as possible for that child, that person, and that family,'' Stone said. ''You become a part of the extended family. You really do. You get involved.''
Coping with stress
Rochelle Stone, his wife of almost 50 years, said he did a good job of not bringing the stress of his work home with him.
''The joy of pediatric practice is to see kids grow and thrive and become adults and live a nice fruitful life,'' she said. ''If you're dealing with a chronic illness segment, you help a family deal with what they're going to have to deal with. It takes a person with great insight and understanding and sensitivity. While you help the family deal with it, you can't paint a rosy picture and not talk about what the reality is. That's a real gift that Bob does have.''
Over the years, she said, he would get ''down in the dumper'' at times when a patient wasn't doing as well as he had hoped.
''He would never say who the family was, but over a situation that went poorly,'' said Rochelle Stone, the past president of the Akron Children's Hospital Women's Board. ''If there was a patient of his who was a social friend of ours, I was always the last one who would know if their child was in the hospital. He was always careful about that. I think it was a way of keeping family life separate from office life, too. It was a way for him to be able to walk away from those tense situations than to have to live it over and over.''
Stone served as director of the hospital's cystic fibrosis clinic from 1972 until 1998, when he woke up in the middle of the night and thought: ''You know what? Thirty years of death and dying is enough.''
By that time, however, the lives of his patients were decades longer than when he started practice.
He'd moved from attending preschool graduations of patients who wouldn't live into their teens to attending high school graduations, college graduations and weddings.
''You start with something that's so grim and now it's upbeat,'' he said.
During his tenure, Stone was instrumental in bringing adult services to the cystic fibrosis clinic for patients who increasingly were surviving into their adulthood, said Dr. Gregory Omlor, director of the pulmonary division at Akron Children's.
He showed the same level of dedication to all his patients, Omlor said.
''He would be available to them at all hours of the day,'' Omlor said. ''He would come in on Sundays and see the patients. If there was a procedure that needed to be done and nobody else would do it, he would take the time to learn how to do the procedure so his patients could get the needed care.''
To honor his work, Stone's brother and sister-in-law, Don and Marcia, donated $300,000 in 1997 to the hospital's outpatient respiratory center, which now bears his name.
''It's really a nice legacy,'' he said.
'New chapter'
Stone admitted it wasn't easy to leave patient care behind.
''I obviously had mixed emotions about it,'' he said. ''My basic project over the last couple years was to help transition my patients.''
His wife said much like a veteran athlete, Stone ''decided to cut back from seeing patients at a time when he was still at the top of his game and before anyone asked him to step down.
''We're at a point now where we'd like to do more traveling and have less restrictions on our daily activities,'' she said.
Thankfully, his wife added with a laugh, he opted to retire when the weather was turning warmer and the golf courses were beckoning.
''It's a new chapter,'' Stone said. ''That's the way I'm looking at it.''